Wednesday 28 March 2012

THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT

BY CYNAID CREE
No matter how positive you can be,there are always the events and setbacks  that makes us take a backseat in our lives.I was having one of those  "if only days".You know when you're told you have to be patient about all the things you want in your life but nothing ever happens.That time goes from weeks to months to years and then eventually your patience runs out.
I had not checked my mail in a long time and then I received this mail and the words jumped right out at me like "Hey Im talking to you,I hope you're listening!!''.I felt really guilty because I am guilty of comparing.If I just had a little bit more help and ..If only I had.....then I could.. .In all of our personal relationships you can have all that you want but whats true is instead of looking at someone elses life or relationship,try looking at your own.The more time you focus on our own life you could actually have what you want.The following extract is from the email I received.Its so inspirational,I thought I'd share it.

There's an old saying: "The grass is always greener on the other side."
At some point in life, everyone looks at their circumstances and thinks,
"If only... If only I had a better job. If only my spouse were like
so-and-so. If only I had gone to college. If only I had the
opportunities so-and-so had." We look around and think everyone else has
it better than we do. But I believe comparison is just a trick of the
enemy to get us off course and keep us from God's best. Comparison is
the thief of joy, and if the enemy can steal our joy, he has stolen our
source of strength.

See, I don't believe the grass is greener on the other side; I believe

the grass is greener where you water it. In other words, we have to tend
to the things that are important to us if we want to see those areas of
our lives blossom and grow. If you want better relationships, you have
to invest in the people around you. If you want a better job, you have
to invest in your skill set to qualify for that job and then go after it.

We all have the capacity to come up higher. God has given us all
tremendous opportunities, but if we are focused on what everyone else
has, we'll miss out on what God has especially for us!

Today, instead of comparing, decide to cultivate the dry, follow areas
of your life. Begin to water and invest in the areas in which you want
to see change."
photo courtesy  by scottchan

Thursday 15 March 2012

HOW TO CREATE THE MEMORIES AND EXPERIENCES IN LIVING LIFE TO ITS FULLEST

BY CYNAID CREE

Just the other day I was staring blankly at the tv and I just thought..Can you imagine how much money we just spend on experiences.We pay money to go to the movies.After you watch the movie what happens?Its just stored in our brain.All humans do is process this information thats just being viewed and payed for.When you think about it you actually paid money for an experience and the emotion that comes with it. Even taking your family out to a fast food restaurant,its a simple experience and memory to treasure but its still paid for.We pay for expensive clothes,shoes,gadgets,cars just so that we can feel a certain emotion that comes with it.When you think about it its really strange how humans behave.Of course theres the basic things that we need but then we are always chasing the next new thing.This behaviour has become erradical,adding things to our life that we dont really need.

What about all the things that exists in front of you.The birds that visit everyday on a tree near your kitchen window.Writing your name on a misty car window.The smell of your favourite food being cooked in the kitchen by your mum or even listening to the voice of your partner on the other end of the telephone.Memories and experiences will live with you till your golden years but you want to make sure its the memories that will make you smile and shed a tear.You dont want to grow old thinking you spent all this time on the internet tweeting and counting how many likes you had on a page or comment or who sent you an email on your mobile.To create RICH memories and experiences to the fullest,we have to go back to minimal.No pun intended:D


Theres one man who I admire so much who is a great example of how we should be living.The second richest man in the world,Warren Buffet who donated $31 billion dollars to charity.No wonder he is so rich because he is so generous too.The way he lives his life is so down to earth he definitely knows how to really live life to the fullest.

Here are some interesting aspects of his life:
1.- He bought his first share at age 11 and now regrets that he started too late.
2.- He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.
3.- He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in Omaha that he bought after he married 50 years ago. He says he has everything he needs in that house. His house has no fence or gate.
4.- He drives his own car everywhere and does not carry a driver or bodyguard.
5.- He never travels by private jet, although he owns the largest private jet company in the world.
6.- His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls regularly.
7.- He has given his CEO’s only two rules:

• Rule 1: Do not lose any money from its shareholder.
• Rule 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

8.- He does not socialize with people of high society. His pastime after he gets home is to prepare some popcorn and watch television.
9.- Bill Gates, the world’s richest man met him 5 years ago. Bill Gates thought he had nothing in common with Warren Buffett. So he had scheduled the meeting for only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffett.
10.- His advice to young people:
Stay away from credit card and invest in yourself.
Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk


Dont you love rule number 10.Invest in yourself and I dont always think it means monetary.It can also be taking care of yourself in health and when you do this you can take care of others too. 
Make sure when you find that someone special in your life you dont get caught up in the rat race of life and you have time to snuggle with popcorn in front of the tv or find time to act silly:)Those memories are priceless!!!!

source:
http://www.theuglycow.net/financial-advice/warren-buffett-the-second-richest-man-in-the-world-who-donated-31-billion-dollars-to-charity/

Tuesday 6 March 2012

HOW YOUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS DIRECTLY INFLUENCE YOUR BODY AND RELATIONSHIPS

BY CYNAID CREE

When we are born into this world,we come in with many challenges to face.Part of living our lives on earth is to learn the rule of acceptance and love.Learning the rule of acceptance and love towards ourselves.Who can love us, if we don't start to love ourselves first.On my previous post I spoke about origins of blame.When we learn to understand where our insecurities lye we can begin to heal ourselves from within first.The next step is to look in the mirror and start to accept who you are as a soul before you just ignore the image in the mirror that looks back at you every day.Diseases are not something purposely given to us.It might be put in our path because of some emotional issue we are ignoring that needs to be addressed right away.This starts to manifest and grow into a disease and starts to kill our body slowly.Your body usually shows signs'of what issue you are putting of.Believe it or not this also starts to affect your relationships.Bad thoughts and emotions help disease grow.Positive thoughts about yourself and situations can change you DNA structure.

Remember that eating healthy food and force starving yourself to be thin is not something postive.Hating your body still equals negative no matter how great you look on the outside.Did you know that Steve Jobs was a vegan but still died of cancer.Sometimes you wonder how could a person that eats so healthy die vs a person that eats junk food and smokes and drinks.Perhaps the unhealthy person is not taking care of their body but they are happy inside.Hey I am not saying we should be swallowing down grease but I am saying  that we all should be happy.I heard a quote the other day"we are not mind,body and spirit,we are mind,body,emotion and spirit".The emotion plays a very big part in our lives.If we are happy and content we wont find the need for drugs or alcohol in excess.There is some emotion that is not resolved to drive a person onto the edge of living dangerously.
Below is an extract of what emotions connects what parts of our bodies that we are ignoring.It can help us immediately to identify what we should be paying attention to in our lives

A. The Skeletal System
ANKLES: Important for grounding, stability & mobility. Support our entire weight. Is your support system letting you down? Unable to stand alone. When our beliefs are being questioned, there is nothing to hold us upright.

SPRAINED ANKLE: Lack of flexibility for the direction we are going in. Can't put your foot down about some issue, won't take a stand for your truth. Unwilling to step forward.

SWOLLEN ANKLES: Holding of emotional energy, frustration or resistance to letting go. Weight of emotional burden too great.

HEEL SPUR: Holding on tight to reality, a stubborness indicating a fear of change.

COLD FEET: Emotional uncertainty, withdrawal or resistance to what lies ahead.

LEG INJURY: Not having a leg to stand on.

KNEE WON'T FLEX: Not willing to give in to authority.

KNEE WON'T EXTEND: Giving in, unable to stand up to authority.


HIP: Fear of moving forward.

LOW BACK INJURY: Most dominant value or issue of one's life is being threatened, for example, family, relationships or finances.

SCOLIOSIS: Mother & father issues, trying to please both parents, mainly involves the daughter.

SHOULDERS: Carrying other people's problems for too long. Burden of taking everything on for others. Unable to reach out.

FROZEN SHOULDER: Where are we giving or receiving coldness?

ELBOWS: Are we opening our arms to embrace the world? Fear of opening to the
future & not embracing that which is ahead of you. Elbowing someone out of the way or elbowed out of the way.

HANDS: Giving & receiving. Can't hold on or can't release. We want to reach out & touch, but fear of insecurity is holding us back.

SWEATY HANDS: Nervous, anxious, scared about what you are doing.

COLD HANDS: Withdrawing feelings from an activity or feeling fearful of being involved.

PINS AND NEEDLES OR NUMBNESS: Person doesn't want to feel.

FINGER INJURY: Pointing the finger.

NECK INJURY: Futility, not knowing which way to turn. refusal to see other person's point of view because of fear. Stiff, inflexible thinking.

HEADACHES: Self criticism. Fear. Invalidating the self. Dislike of being driven. Resisting the flow of life. Sexual fears. Conflict inside yourself about how you will do & what you will say or what you will accomplish. One part of you is looking forward to an event & other part is fearing the event.

MIGRAINE: Not listening to the message of your soul, conflict with the inner voice, resistance to listening to inner voice.

JAW PROBLEMS: Generalised stress, wanting to express & holding back. Can't swallow.

RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS: Overly self-critical or judgmental attitude & low self esteem. Not living up to parent's expectations.

RHEUMATOID HANDS: Not able to give because hands can't open, desire to hit out at something.


JUVENILE RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS: Fear of the loss of a parent, or support of a parent. Fear of being alone.

ARTHRITIS: Criticism, wearing away, stiffness, deep resistance or fear of movement. Overly critical attitude & resentment towards what one is doing or what is being done to them, which results in wearing away joy & gratitude. Resistant & hardening of one's attitude towards life or expression of feeling. Not expressing our deeper feelings. Anger, irritation or frustration with ourselves or someone else. Inflexible thinking. Rigid joints become useless because they have lost their purpose, which is movement.

INFLAMATION: Resistance to what is happening, a build up of angry emotions. Irritating issue that is restricting your expression. Feel hot & fired up inside. Critical & inflexible.

INFECTIONS: Boils. Anger.

CHRONIC PAIN: Long term fear & guilt.

BONE FRACTURE: Inflexibility, resistance to going with the flow. We break when there is resistance to movement. Feeling fractured & split into pieces. Deep split or conflict at the very core/centre of our being. Divided loyalties.

BRITTLE BONE DISEASE: Entire core & foundation of one's existence is threatened. Top value system is threatened. Whole reason for being here is threatened.

SCLEROSIS: Anger, not living up to expectations.


OSTEOPOROSIS: Thinning of life force flowing through the bones due to a sense of giving up.

SCAR TISSUE: For example, calcification, degenerative joint disease.
Unwilling to let go of the lopsided perception. Stuck consciousness. Locked in attitudes. Anger, hardness.

ANKYLOSING SPONDYLITIS: Calcification, rigidity, scar tissue. Value systems are rigid.

PAGETS DISEASE (THICKENING OF BONE): Hardening of consciousness. Priority or core value burdening the person or putting stress on the person's body. Trying to live up to parent's authority. Outer soft persona (soft spoken, calm, gentle) holding in their repressed anger - deep hard persona.

MOTOR NEURONE DISEASE: Unable to express anger.

MULTIPLE SCEROSIS: MS restricts and limits movement indicating that the expression of feeling is being suppressed. Moving in a direction one doesn't want to go. Unable to deal with change. Feeling of lost opportunity. Losing a sense of self and purpose and direction.


B. The Respiratory Tract
LUNG: Frustration, grief, not being able to do things your way.

ASTHMA: Inabiltiy to inhale, have inspiration for life. Inability to breathe for one's self. Feeling stifled. Suppressed crying. Can't breathe - can't enjoy life because not satisfied with yourself, and doing things that are not in your best interest. Frustration of not finding a way of pleasing the parents. Doing things the way others want you to.

SINUS: Irritation at one person. Feeling scattered and overwhelmed. Frightened about the future. Low self worth and low self esteem. Unable to break free of old patterns. Don't know which way to go to solve the issue. Repressed grief and unshed tears. Need to release blockage to become unstuck.

PHENUMONIA (INFLAMMATION OF THE LUNGS): An issue inflaming your feeling about breathing - taking in of life. Feeling exhausted or overwhelmed by burden of having to cope. Longing to stop and take time out. Needing help but unable to ask for it. Has someone knocked the wind out of you?

EMPHYSEMA: Not doing things your way. Not being yourself. Can't exhale, so can't get enough life.

ALLERGIES: Rejection of people, places, events and objects. Who or what is annoying or aggravating you? Allergic to yourself and aggravated with what you're doing or not doing to yourself or for yourself.

COUGH: Wanting to get rid of the emotions of not being your own master.

COMMON COLD: Virus attacks you because of negative attitudes. Leaving yourself out and not being in control of yourself. Crying or grieving that is being repressed. Unshed tears. This can follow the death of a loved one or an emotional shock. Have you gone emotionlly. A common cold is called common because it is common not to express how we feel.

INFLUENZA: (means to come under the influence of): Not wanting to do what someone else has told you to do & feeling guilty. Someone or something is having a strong influence on you, therefore, creating doubt & undermining sense of identity or purpose. Allows time to build your inner strength.

BRONCHITIS (Bronchii bring air to the lungs & take used air back again, therefore, communicate between the inside & outside the world): Needing to get something off your chest. Needing to release & let go. Feeling smothered by someone. Coughing & bringing up mucus rather than sharing your feelings. Something irritating you that you need to externalise. Thinking that you're not doing things your way.

NOSE BLEEDS: Damage to a blood vessel because not satisfied with yourself, therefore, pushing yourself too hard to show that you can do things just as well as others.


C. Cardiovascular disease
No love or joy in one's life. Extreme feeling of loss. Not expressing love & joy with other people.
VASCULAR PROBLEMS: Relates to circulation, which is giving & receiving joy. Hopelessness, futility, confusion, cannot fulfil purpose.

STROKE: As for Vascular problems.

ANGINA: Perception of a loss or something missed.

HEART ATTACK: Giving & receiving joy is blocked. Not living for yourself & blocking yourself from living your purpose.

VARICOSE VEINS: Unwillingness to receive joy. The more distal. the more prolonged the block to receive.

ANEURISM: Splitting the 2 sides of an artery. Division of male & female energies. Block between male & female sides of one's parents, one's self or one's children. Anger with mother or father.

INTERNAL BLEEDING: Hiding of internal sorrow.

HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE ( Blood = life energy within a body, movement/circulation of love & vitality through the body): Increased pressure. Anger. Stress. Feelings not being expressed, creating a build-up of inner pressure.

LOW BLOOD PRESSURE: Resistance to entering into life fully & fearlessely. Inner weakness & desire to pull back, unable to stand without feeling dizzy or overwhelmed.

ANAEMIA: Decreased number of red blood cells, issues with the masculine side. (Red blood cells have an aggressive function because they transport oxygen for the body to function).

HAEMOPHILIA: Not loving yourself for the things you believe you have done.

LYMPHODEMA (Blocked Lymphatic System): Similar to venous system, white blood cell problem. Swelling of lymph glands. Perception that not receiving joy or love from the mother.


D. Gastrointestinal System
BLOATING/FLUID RETENTION: Accumulation of your emotions in the small intestine.

ULCERS: Eating at you, trouble doing something to resolve an issue. Inability to assimilate the new.

GALL STONES (Gall Bladder Stores & Concentrates Bile): Bitterness, hard thoughts, condemning, pride, resentment. Unwilling to let go of the perception of being locked in. Trying to please others but feeling bitter about it.

LIVER- HEPATITIS, CIRRHOSIS, CANCER ( the liver detoxifies): Anger & primitive emotions. Chronic complaining. Justifying fault finding to deceive yourself. Not learning about why you allow others to hurt your feelings.

STOMACH (Function of digestion, absorption, churns & breaks down food. Part of the defence mechanism of body during digestion with gall bladder, pancreas & small intestine): Can't take in new ideas, can't stomach it, can't digest it. Churning it over in your mind. Prolonged uncertainty. Feeling of doom, inflexibility, resistance, over sympathetic. Fear of new, can't break it down.

PANCREAS (Neutralises acid chyme from the stomach as it enters the small intestine & secretes insulin & glucagon in carbohydrate metabolism):
• HYPERGYCAEMIA/DIABETES: Unwilling to listen to anyone, not willing to be directed. Stuck in self-righteousness. Bitterness, especially towards father. Anger & frustration because life seems to have lost its sweetness.
• HYPOGLYCEMIA: Listening to everyone's opinion, will do whatever the person is told by others. Stuck in self-wrongness persona. Low self worth, wanting to be directed. Infatuation with mother. Anal retentive.
• CYSTIC FIBROSIS: Constant destruction of pancreatic system. Sweetness/bitterness issue. Trying to please everyone but didn't get attention. Trying to get attention through anger, resentment & didn't get attention, therefore, bitterness. Trying to please everybody but holding all their bitterness inside. Futility in trying to get attention from the parents.

SMALL INTESTINES (Assimilation and absorption of nutrients):
IRRITABLE BOWEL: Refusal to take charge. Not assimilating and completely scattered. Victim mentality. Trying to please everyone.

COLON (Collects, stores & moves waste products of digestion):
CROHNS DISEASE/COLITIS (Abdominal pain, diarrhoea, constipation, bleeding, ulceration): Inflexible opinion, fear of letting go of things from the past. Holding onto old beliefs and ideas that they feel fear and guilt about. Insecurity, fear and nervousness when confronting the unknown, strong belief that you are not good enough. What is twisting and distorting you?

DIVERTICULITIS: Holding onto issues with the mother. Supressing one's own activity. Fear and guilt about being unsociable and not outflowing one's own emotions.

HAEMORRHOIDS:
Wanting to pass on knowledge but believing it will not be accepted. Bleeding due to anger. Holding onto anger backs up to liver. Trying to push or force some issue in one's life.

DIARRHOEA: Letting go of your ideas, goals, issues when you believe you can't have what you want. Feeling that you have been emotionally hit in the guts. The feeling that you are being poisoned by an issue or another person. Something you want to get rid of because there is too much to deal with. Not
knowing how to assimilate your feelings, feeling helpless inside. Lack of absorption.

CONSTIPATION: Suppression of one's ideas, opinions and holding on and not expressing it. Fear of the future, fear of the unknown, uncertainty about what lies ahead.

HERNIA: Wakening or collapse because because one tries to cope with too much at once and strains under the weight. Person strains to do everything right and therefore, pushes too far. Inner longing to release what is being restrained.

APPENDICITIS (Appendix aids the immune system and is a filter connected to the intestinal tract): Breakdown of the ability to filter incoming reality and to protect ourselves from that reality.


E. Cancer
CANCER: Deep hurt, long standing resentment eats away at the body. Deep secret or grief eating away at the self. Carrying hatred, futility. Last ditch effort to get person to love.

BREAST CANCER: Not appreciating one's nurturing side. Never wanting to nurture or not having the opportunity to nurture.

BRAIN TUMOURS: Deep core value system screwed up. Spiritual belief undermined, their connection to God has been cut off. They have lost the belief that there is someone watching over them.

TESTICULAR CANCER: (TESTICLES STORE CREATIVE FORCES) Repression or expression of creative forces in one persona. Extreme elation or depression about creativity particularly sexual creativity. Extreme fear or guilt about sexual expression or suppression.

LEUKAEMIA: Disconnected with the feminine side. Issues with the female. Anger & resentment with the female. Self righteous feminine persona. Increased number of white blood cells (part of the protective, defence, immune system).


F. Skin conditions
SHINGLES: High overwhelming stress, something you don't want to face that is totally humiliating you. Feeling guilty about what you don't want to face, you fear you will be found out about. Issue of unworthiness brought on by stress which depletes the immune system. A deep anxiety or inner pain that has been building up over a period of time.

PSORIASIS: Unwillingness to face something. Believing you are not worthy of loving or living. Wanting to please a parent, no matter what the child does, can't get appreciation from parents. Feeling of deep shame or guilt about an issue, so covering up the skin as a mask.

ACNE: Not wanting to face up to new things, so living in the past. An eruption of all the conflicting & tormented feelings locked inside. The eruptions represent the longing for release to accept yourself & find your inner beauty.

ECZEMA/DERMATITITIS: Feeling unworthy or inadequate. Trying to keep the world at a distance. Someone or something getting under your skin, or feeling overexposed. Extreme sensitivity to circumstances & emotions around you. Isolating & locking yourself inside because of fear in coming out.

VITILIGO: Skin pigmentation. Thinking yourself as ugly & not wanting to face looking at yourself. A dominant self-deprecating persona.


G: female reproductive system
UTERUS (Home of creativity, symbol of womanhood & femininity): Anger at the self. Hatred of the body & of the feminine side. Self righteous & dogmatic thinking, critical of others. How you feel about being a woman, or about having or not having children. Do you live up to the image your mother instilled in you? Do you find femininity over burdening & hard to deal with?

FIBROSIS (Benign tumours found in the uterus): A soft tissue lump indicates thoughts & attitudes that have been suppressed for so long that they have taken a solid form. Issues relating to femininity, sexuality, motherhood. Unexpressed guilt, shame or history of abuse. Unwilling to let go of sexual inhibitions. Since the uterus is where a woman nurtures new life, there may be conflicts about nurturing, for example, giving to others while feeling unnourished yourself. A desire to keep everything the same by blocking your creative forces.

PREMENSTRUAL TENSION: Resentment towards having a menstrual cycle when having to work or resentment towards work. Struggling to prove yourself as a woman, would rather be a man. Resenting monthly reminder of being feminine. Finding it hard to flow with nature, preferring to be in control & dominate instead of submitting. Guilt, shame, lack of love for the self. Would rather not have a menstrual cycle or would rather not be working.

MENSTRUAL PROBLEMS (painful menstruation, irregular cycles, cramps, increased & heavy menstrual flow, amenorrhoea, continual menstruation): Desire to get pregnant or a fear of parenthood. An inability to surrender to the body's natural rhythms & flow, therefore, creating a blockage behind which your feelings gather. Confusion about your role as a woman. or resentment towards men. Competing against others for another person's love. Not loving yourself, & not realising that all the love you need is inside you. Rejection of one's feminine side.

ENDOMETRIOSIS/OVARIAN CYSTS (create menstrual problems & hinder pregnancy): Deep conflict of being fulfilled as a woman or expressing your femininity, or wanting to be a mother or not. Resenting the children you already have. Your femininity has been repressed or abused. You perceive that your partner is rejecting you. Repressing your sexuality. Inner conflict with creating and finding your own path.

THRUSH (Yeast-like organism which infects warm damp areas): The yeast is kept in check by the acid/alkaline balance in the vagina, but if balance is upset due to emotional causes or because of antibiotics killing the natural flora, the the yeast flourishes causing a white, foul smelling discharge.
The discharge indicates discharging unacceptable feelings. An infection implies that something is irritating you and making you angry, such as having to be intimate, or being intimate with the wrong person. Feeling sexually abused or exploited. Feelings of guilt, shame or repressed sexual feelings.

INFERTILITY: A woman's unwillingness to be like her mother. Unwillingness to go through what her mother went through. Shutting down of feminine side. Unresolved childhood abuse creating an unconscious fear of having a child. Fear the responsibility, or feeling inadequate, unable to cope, especially financially.
Believing that having a child is the only way life will have any meaning for you.

MENOPAUSE: Fearing the purpose of your existence since your role as a mother has
diminished. Fear of the ageing process and of inevitable change taking place, and that you are no longer in control of your body. Menopause is a stopping of blood flow and may mean you have stopped loving yourself, as if your feelings are drying up inside.Hot flushes may indicate the fire of anger or fear, and so the body is burning the past releasing all the old ways.


H. General
ADRENAL GLANDS (Body's ability to deal with stress): Defeatism, victim mentality, no longer caring for self. Anxiety paranoia, can't figure it out.

ADDISONS DISEASE: Needing to maintain control over everything.

KIDNEY (Fluid balance, filtration of blood, excretory function):

KIDNEY STONES: Condensed thought patterns and emotions that have not been shed, solidifying. Holding onto insecurity or sadness and unresolved grievances.

THYROID (produce hormones for growth & cell regeneration & repair, regulates metabolism, blood calcium levels & oxygen consumption, important for nerve growth):

GOITRE (Swelling of thyroid gland): Feeling that you are being choked by too many responsibilities & overwhelmed by life.

HYPERTHYROID (Increase in thyroid activity causing weight loss, irritability, nervousness, perspiration & weakness): Fear of responsibility, selfish & self centred attitude. Expressing something you wish you hadn't. Talking too much, gossiping, rage of being left out.

HYPOTHRYROID (Slowing down of thyroid activity resulting in depression, tiredness, weight increase, low body temperature): Losing the will to live. Feeling hopelessly stifled. Not expressing something & wishing you could. Unfulfilled expectation of spouse. Insecurity.

GOUT (Increase uric acid in joints & uric acid is removed by urine): Anger and being stuck - since joint is inflamed. If old emotions not released, they begin to crystallise causing rigidity & inflexibility.

BLADDER (Body's way of releasing emotions that are finished with & no longer needed): Don't want to let things out, paralysed will, timid, wishy-washy.

CYSTISIS: Burning inside because you can't get what you want. Holding onto inflamed feelings.

PROSTATE: Sexual pressure or sexual guilt. Holding back sexuality. Inability to accept pleasure. Insecurity. Mental fears weaken the masculing essence. Dogmatic thinking & critical of other. Prostate is involved in reproductive abiltiy & thus reflects concerns of ageing men. A retired male may feel he has lost his purpose as the breadwinner & perceive himself as useless & his power draining away. Can be associated with financial difficulty or fear of having material security reduced. Males that are out of touch with finding love & have difficulty in expressing these inner feelings & are using sex to find love.

TINNITUS: Reminding you to listen to what is being said rather than being distracted. Makes you focus inwards & listen to your own voice. Unwilling to hear something.

CATARACTS: Unwilling to see what lies ahead especially in the elderly. The fear of helplessness, sickness, loneliness. Withdrawing behind the cloudiness creates the illusion that nothing is changing. The person perceives there is no light in their life.

AIDS: Massive fear, major self rejection, self blame, self depreciation. Usually a long term, deep issue with the father. Person doesn't feel worthy about being alive. Allowing yourself to be controlled by what society thinks about you, thus no inner peace resulting in a weakened immune system.

AUTOIMMUNE DISEASE: The immune system attacks itself. The body fighting against itself, rejection of self. Feeling that your life isn't valuable. Carrying guilt, shame or blame from the past that is destroying your self esteem, self respect & self worth. Having an intense hatred of yourself. Being disappointed in yourself & overly critical of yourself.

LUPUS (Very primitive type of collagen (connective tissue) disase.): Person has self wrongness persona that can't face things & can't prioritise or order things. Very scattered consciousness trying to do too many things in order to please too many people.

LEPROSY: Comp;lete annihilation of who they are. Total self depreciation. Feeling unworthy of being around. "I hate myself, I don't want to look at myself."

POLIO: (Muscle Wasting): Withdrawal from motor expression, trying to do something that one believes is not possible & having a feeling of futility about ever acccomplishing it. Unwilling to express something or to take action.

PARKINSONS DISEASE: Fear of breaking society's rules, conditions & myths. Fear of social rejection. Perception of being humiliated in a social environment. In the stress of not getting what you want, you revert back to the reptilian stage of evolution which means a destruction of the Basal Ganglia, resulting in decreased motor control. Self righteous persona hides their self wrongness persona. Fear in not believing in what you do and say. The muscle tremor is a reaction to your guilt in not understanding that you teach what you need to learn.

EPILEPSY: Overwhelming brain noise with thousands of secondary associations of a major lie that is perceived unforgivable. An event considered unlovable that causes guilt & you're constantly reminded about it daily. Not accepting the way you do things. An internal breakdown triggered by unexpressed pressure that overloads the circuit. You are "seized" by emotion. A conflict between your inner world and the world around you. A separation between reality & your inner perception, or separation between yourself & the divine.

VERTIGO/DIZZINESS: Confusion, spinning around in consciousness. Not knowing where you are going & where to direct your energies. Not able to commit to something, going around in circles.

CHRONIC FATIGUE: Ingratitude for life. Not working on priorities. Not clear on purpose. Scattered mind. Emotionally run down & overwhelmed.

GLANDULAR FEVER: Living in the past and tiredness due to constant outflowing and not taking in new insights or ideas. Not accepting yourself, hence, not using your creativity, intuition. Being inflexible and not knowing your direction. Fear of failure.

FEVER: Not wanting to be told what to do and it makes you boil inside.

MENINGITIS (Meninges protect the brain): Core issue deals with absolute feeling of hoplessness and complete overwhelm. Entire foundation in business or relationships is shaken. Child can be overwhelmed by the parents. Feeling of futility with spouse. No support for one's purpose.

INSOMNIA: Sleep allows us to regenerate and recuperate. We sleep when we surrender to ego. Fear of what will happen without our awareness. Not trusting ourselves with others. Mind filled with doubts and fears, fear of dying. Ingratitude for the experiences and lessons of the day.

ANOREXIA: Low self worth because of guilt and shame. Longing to be loved and nurtured so person reduces their size so as to reduce the demand for that love. Diminishes a maturing teenager's sexuality, keeps the body like a child and undeveloped. Desire to escape from the reality of becoming a woman. Not loving yourself, hence self destruction.

BULIMIA: Conflict between wanting to be perfect and love for life, and self hate and guilt. Refusal to allow anything nourishing to touch you on the inside. Not knowing how to obtain spiritual growth and because you overeat you throw up what you don't need.

OBESITY: Put up physical barriers to let no one in because they don't want to face what is going on. Protecting yourself from your own illusion. Storing emotions of loneliness.

CELLULITE: Not appreciating one's own body. Issues about your sexuality. Liver metabolism problems.

FAINTING: Not wanting to face up to what you need to learn. All your plans and goals have become obsolete.

STUTTERING/DYSLEXIA: Inferiority complex and needing self acceptance. Seeking attention. Fear of taking over a fatherly, authority role.

BEDWETTING: Over-dominant parent, child trying to seek attention. Not knowing how to get what you want.

AUTISM/CEREBRAL PALSY: Infatuation by parents of the child being a genius.

ALZEHEIMER'S DISEASE (degeneration of the brain): Losing your sense of purpose especially as this disease affects the elderly. Feeling helpless, powerless, lonely. Fear about financial survival and about what lies ahead. A problem of non use, person is shutting off - "I'm not going to deal with this anymore", many times because of spouse. Resenting the fact that you don't know what to do with your life. Not willing to stand up and change your life.

SCHIZOPHRENIA: Person undergoing extremes back and forth, the split hemispheres arguing. Cannot love something in their life. Perceiving that the devil made them do it and thus looking for the saviour. Separation of good and evil, self and other. A major lie that is life threatening to them that they feel extreme fear and guilt about. Extreme exaggeration or minimisation of an event, issue or person.

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Monday 5 March 2012

THE ORIGINS OF BLAME

BY CYNAID CREE

Our parents groom us into the individuals we become in the world.We are our parents children but sometimes we are not our parents.Each person has their own unique quality to their personality.Sometimes our parents can guide us positively or negatively of the people we will become in the world.A girl that grows up with an abusive father will unconsciously pick an abusive boyfriend or husband.This is because she is unconsciously immune to this type of abuse and deems it as normal.A boy that grows up with an alcoholic mother or uncaring mother might choose a wonderful wife that is motherly. He could be uncaring towards his wife and display signs of alcoholism to deal with his problems or he could choose a woman who is alcoholic or does not possess a motherly trait.The situations,feelings and emotions exposed in our own family is the way we will play out our character to the world.I am writing this article to help you take a step back to understand yourself from the environment you came from.When you try to do this,you will begin to understand why me?You will learn that you are being taught something.You will no longer feel alone or helpless.You will have freedom to excel and do better.You are put in this situations so that you can change your life and help others.Imagine for one second there was no right and wrong,no yes or no just the understanding of the situation.When you learn to understand to stop the anger,blame yourself or your parents,you will be less angry with yourself and learn to accept the lesson being taught to you.

Below is an excercise that I encourage you to do.It is from this excercise you will begin to understand why you have the problems that you do.You will learn better how to deal with your relationships.What serves you or what does not.Most of all you will learn to be calm,accepting and excel.



When we blame others for the things that happen to us, we are mistaken.
Most of us don't believe that for a minute. But it is the truth.
Things happen. Some of them are accidents. Some of them are designed by the Divine to help us learn something about ourselves and others. Some of the are actually designed by us to help us learn something we want to learn. Some are caused by people in the grip of pain, wild emotions, drugs, mental problems or psychological disorders. Some are random acts of cruelty and evil.
What's important to our spiritual health is not what happens to us but how we react to what happens. The event that happened did hurt us. Our reactions to that event continue to hurt us every day of our lives. We can't stop what happened. We can stop our reactions to what happened. We do that through the simple process of understanding why we blame somebody or something else for our pain. We make a list of what happened and our current understanding of why we blame anybody or anything for what happened. We can learn to understand the evil deed they did was not them and the evil deed we did was not us.
We blame them, us or it because they, me or it did it.

We heal ourselves by understanding the other person was out of control and couldn't stop before they hurt us. They were physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically or spiritually out of control. We heal ourselves by understanding we were out of control when it happened and that's all there is to it. We heal ourselves by understanding the thing was out of control when it hurt us and that's all there is to it.
 Healing always follows such an effort. Those steps are:
  • List and understand what you blame your father for doing to you
  • List and understand what you blame your mother for doing to you
  • List and understand what you blame your child or children, brother or brothers, sister or sister, aunts, uncles and cousins for doing to you
  • List and understand what you blame your grandparents, great uncles, great aunts, nieces, nephews and all your other ancestors for doing to you
  • List and understand what you blame your friends, fellow students and fellow employees for doing to you
  • List and understand what you blame your enemies and antagonists for doing to you
  • List and understand what you blame all other persons whatsoever for doing to you
  • List and understand what you blame yourself, your mind, body, attitudes, beliefs, intentions, health and actions for doing to you

1. List and understand what you blame your father for doing to you
For our purposes the term father refers to the male person who contributed most to your childhood. This may be your biological father, a step-father or other male figure. It may include other men or be a combination of several men. If this is the case, you may want to do this task for each of them.

Your father, whether he is currently dead or alive, is a human being complete with strengths and weaknesses. He is a product of his environment and his heredity. He is a product of the prejudices and biases of his own parents and the society in which he grew up. He was and still is imperfect and he made and may still be making many mistakes.

Your father loves you and he wants the very best for you and he always has. He always did the best he could do in everything he did based on who and what he was at the time. He never intended to harm you, but he did intend to protect and teach you as best he could based on who and what he was at the time. He was imperfect and he made mistakes.
Your task is to sit quietly, become comfortable, take a few deep breaths and write down everything you remember you blame your father for. List the things he said and did that made you feel badly and explain these feelings.
Make certain your list is as complete as it can be for now. This may take you several days. So be it. Write as long as thoughts and ideas arise and as long as you're comfortable. Take a break when you need to take a break. The intent of this part of the task is to recall as many details as you can comfortably recall about the things for which you blame your father. Write them all down together with a description of your feelings at the time.

When you're done try to understand what mental, emotional, psychological or spiritual illness caused him to act in this way. Yes, he may have been the cause of your pain, but you don't need to hang onto that forever. You can let it go and that choice is yours and yours alone. When finished, go to step two.

2. List and understand what you blame your mother for doing to you
For our purposes the term mother refers to the woman who contributed most to your childhood. This may be your biological mother, a stepmother or other female figure. It may include other women or be a combination of several women. If this is the case, you may want to do this task for each of them.
Your mother, whether she is currently dead or alive, is a human being complete with strengths and weaknesses. She is a product of her environment and her heredity. She is a product of the prejudices and biases of her own parents and the society in which she grew up. She was and still is imperfect and she made and may still be making many mistakes.
Your mother loves you and she wants the very best for you and she always has. She always did the best she could do in everything she did based on who and what she was at the time. She never intended to harm you, but she did intend to protect and teach you as best she could based on who and what she was at the time. She was imperfect and she made mistakes.
Your task is to sit quietly, become comfortable, take a few deep breaths and write down everything you remember you blame your father for. List the things she said and did that made you feel badly and explain these feelings.
Make certain your list is as complete as it can be for now. This may take you several days. So be it. Write as long as thoughts and ideas arise and as long as you're comfortable. Take a break when you need to take a break. The intent of this part of the task is to recall as many details as you can comfortably recall about the things for which you blame your father. Write them all down together with a description of your feelings at the time.
When you're done try to understand what mental, emotional, psychological or spiritual illness caused her to act in this way. Yes, she may have been the cause of your pain, but you don't need to hang onto that forever. You can let it go and that choice is yours and yours alone. When finished, go to step three.

3. List and understand what you blame any of your children, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles and cousins for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step four.

4. List and understand what you blame your grandparents, great uncles, great aunts, nieces, nephews and all your other ancestors for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step five.
5. List and understand what you blame your friends, fellow students and fellow employees for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step six.
6.List and understand what you blame your enemies and antagonists for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step seven.
7. List and understand what you blame all other persons whatsoever for doing to you
Use the same technique you used for your mother and father and consider as many of these people as possible. Write it all down and open yourself to accepting each person as doing the best he or she could do at the time. When finished, go to step eight.
8. List and understand what you blame yourself, your mind, body, attitudes, beliefs, intentions, health and actions for doing to you.
We've intentionally saved the most difficult task for last. Having gone through this process for others makes it easier for us to go through it for ourselves. But go through it we must if we really intend to become the person we want to become. Go through it we must if we wish to advance spiritually in this lifetime

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