UNEXPECTED LOVE

BY CYNAID CREE
Last night and today I thought of how two people really come together and today I received a surprised email on this very topic called Unexpected love.I don't think people really understand their place and function in the world as a piece to a puzzle.Read the extract below by Mona wind which is important that I share with you.

"I love the feeling of love. Who doesn't? We pine for it, crave
it, visualize that in it's perfect form it will complete us.
Yet, love comes in many ways. Most of the time when you're least
expecting it.


I went to an energetic training a few weeks ago. It was quite a
lovely event with many people gathered from all over the US. I
noticed a beautiful woman who kept looking at me and commenting
on my necklace. She really liked it. As I was meditating I got
the hit that the necklace was for her. That I must give it to
her. It was important for her in some way and I was the one who
had the privilege of sharing in the experience.


During the break I gifted it to her. She was both shocked and
delighted. The unexpectedness of receiving something from
someone you don't even know.


Being that I'm curious I asked her what it really meant to her.
Her answer was that she was wondering about love and learning to
be open to it. That she was part of the universe and was cared
and supported in her work.


For me that was such a pleasure. I realized in that moment that
the true nature of love is giving with no expectations, just for
the sake of seeing someone else happy. This lesson is of course
easier when there is no attachment to the outcome.
If you're looking for it from a particular person, situation or
experience it might not come that way. That is both
disappointing and heart breaking. Yet know without a doubt that
the universe has heard you, it's just creating the most
delicious story possible to make it happen!
The universe knows exactly what would be the best for you and I,
our job is to have awareness that it's happening and gratitude
for it. My suggestion is to write down what gifts you receive in
the next week. Some are physical, some mental & emotional and
some spiritual. Let me share with you some of the gifts of love
that I have received in the last week.


1. The reflexology therapist gave me the last piece of wisdom I
needed to move to the next stage of my life.


2. My neighbors cat who usually ignores me and goes straight for
my husband actually honored me with wanting my attention.


3. One of my clients messages to me expanded my consciousness.


4. Someone who cares deeply about me sent me an email just to
see how I was doing.


5. I laughed with a group of friends till I couldn't breathe.


6. The sunset with purples, reds and yellows was breath taking.


There is always love around you if you chose to pay attention to
it. It can be as simple as a smile from a stranger.
Acknowledging it allows more of it to enter your life. Remember
you might be the gifter of that love to someone else. Smile, say
something nice, offer some help, be generous. Don't be shy, gift
it to them, you might change their life and in the process
change yours!"-Mona Wind


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WHY MEN HATE WOMEN WHO GOSSIP?

BY CYNAID CREE

What makes us attractive women?It's not only based on what we look like.Many times men love who we really are.I was reading Eckhart Tolle's A NEW EARTH, and came across this passage which fits perfectly with why women feel the need to gossip.Gossiping is what all women love but when does it start to be an unattractive thing for men?A woman has two parts to her,the attractive intellectual self and the egotistical self.Many men are attracted to the attractive intellectual self of a woman.Who is this egotistical self of a woman that feels the need to talk about and find a complaint on anything and everything.Women who find the need to complain and gossip is usually using more of their egostical self than their real self.Men hate women who do this as they project it as who they really are which women dont realize it.We all know our mothers,sisters and best friends,we love them dearly yet other people cant stand them.Ever wondered why?Its their egotistical self ,their exterior self that they project in their workplace,to their female co-workers and friends.Men dont like cattiness nor do they find this trait attractive in women.The true self of a woman is the self that they let their partners in on.How can a woman who gossips be loved by any man?This is the self that they show only to people they love.What is the solution,to stop gossiping,when you stop gossiping,you silence your ego self who says how dare you be better than me and beat my sales,how dare you look better than me,how dare you have a boyfriend yet im still single,what about me me me?This is true for celebrities too.Who we think they ought to be is not who they are,they have their acting self  and then their real self.Many women want to be with the attention of who they are as a public celebrity figure,but not their real self.How sad is that.

Why women should stop gossiping.It serves no one a purpose.When you become real,the world of love and opportunities opens up to you.Read the extract from A NEW EARTH which will help you identify the real me self vs the ego self



THE EGO'S NEED TO FEEL SUPERIOR

"There are many subtle but easily overlooked forms of ego that you

may observe in other people and, more important, in yourself. Remember:

The moment you become aware of the ego in yourself, that emerging

awareness is who you are beyond ego, the deeper “I.” The recognition of the

false is already the arising of the real.

For example, you are about to tell someone the news of what

happened. “Guess what? You don't know yet? Let me tell you.” If you are

alert enough, present enough, you may be able to detect a momentary sense

of satisfaction within yourself just before imparting the news, even if it is bad

news. It is due to the fact that for a brief moment there is, in the eyes of the

ego, an imbalance in your favor between you and the other person. For that

brief moment, you know more than the other. The satisfaction that you feel is

of the ego, and it is derived from feeling a stronger sense of self relative to

the other person. Even if he or she is the president or the pope, you feel

superior in that moment because you know more. Many people are addicted

to gossiping partly for this reason. In addition, gossiping often carries an

element of malicious criticism and judgment of others, and so it also

strengthens the ego through the implied but imagined moral superiority that

is there whenever you apply a negative judgment to anyone.

If someone has more, knows more, or can do more than I, the ego

feels threatened because the feeling of “less” diminishes its imagined sense

of self relative to the other. It may then try to restore itself by somehow

diminishing, criticizing, or belittling the value of the other person's

possessions, knowledge, or abilities. Or the ego may shift its strategy, and

instead of competing with the other person, it will enhance itself by

association with that person, if he or she is important in the eyes of others.

EGO AND FAME

The wellknown

phenomenon of “name dropping,” the casual mention

of who you know, is part of the ego's strategy of gaining a superior identity

in the eyes of others and therefore in its own eyes through association with

someone “important.” The bane of being famous in this world is that who

you are becomes totally obscured by a collective mental image. Most people

you meet want to enhance their identity – the mental image of who they are

– through association with you. They themselves may not know that they are

not interested in you at all but only in strengthening their ultimately fictitious

sense of self. They believe that through you they can be more. They are

looking to complete themselves through you, or rather through the mental

image they have of you as a famous person, a largerthanlife

collective

conceptual identity.The absurd overvaluation of fame is just one of the many

manifestations of egoic madness in our world. Some famous people fall into

the same error and identify with the collective fiction, the image people and

the media have created of them, and they begin to actually see themselves as

superior to ordinary mortals. As a result, they become more and more

alienated from themselves and others, more and more unhappy, more and

more dependent on their continuing popularity. Surrounded only by people

who feed their inflated selfimage,they become incapable of genuine relationships.

Albert Einstein, who was admired as almost superhuman and whose

fate it was to become one of the most famous people on the planet, never

identified with the image the collective mind had created of him. He

remained humble, egoless. In fact, he spoke of “a grotesque contradiction

between what people consider to be my achievements and abilities and the

reality of who I am and what I am capable of.”5

This is why it is hard for a famous person to be in a genuine

relationship with others. A genuine relationship is one that is not dominated

by the ego with its imagemaking and selfseeking.

In a genuine relationship,there is an outward flow of open, alert attention toward the other person in

which there is no wanting whatsoever. That alert attention is Presence. It is

the prerequisite of any authentic relationship. The ego always either wants

something, or if it believes there is nothing to get from the other, it is in a

state of utter indifference: It doesn't care about you. And so, the three

predominant states of egoic relationship are: wanting, thwarted wanting(anger, resentment, blaming, complaining), and indifference."

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FEMALE DICTIONARY

I came across this and just laughed so hard..
http://www.scribd.com/doc/56971/Female-Dictionary

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WHY IS LOVE SO HARD TO DEFINE?

BY CYNAID CREE
Love is something that nobody can teach you.No matter how many times people tell you how to love,how to receive love,how to let love go,you have to learn the lesson yourself.The History of love has repeated itself ,and will continue to repeat itself .Love makes you weak,and at the same time the pain you experience makes you stronger.They say love is blind.It truly is so.No best friend can convince her girlfriend,that she is making the worst mistake of her life.Love is a poisonous chemical flowing in your body that makes you do strange things.Negative traits of love in other words like a  hypnotized love can make you lose yourself in the process.You wake up years later only to find that you were living somebody else's life.



Positive traits of love is that, it makes you a more giving person,it not only opens your heart and eyes but the hearts and eyes of others too.You make them see what you see.You teach them how to love.This love hypnotizes them too and they teach how to love.Love is utterly an amazing thing.We talk about it,theres help on it,but it really is the same mistakes already made by generations of others.There is nothing different about it in todays age.The books are just re-written.What are we really looking for in relationships?Do we need confirmation from people that dont pay attention to us?Should we be paying attention to the people that we are receiving love from?Why do we head in the direction of dangerous love,when we know deep inside its no good for us?

You spend your whole life trying to find yourself,but when someone loves you just for you,just the way u are,you will see that trying so hard in life is not a race,just being content with your own self is happiness in itself.Love is you.Love is being you.Love is other people loving all of you.Love is maybe not so hard to define.We already have it,its there,we just always dont look around us.When we start to being more present and aware,we will find the love thats waiting for us when we are ready.Love is always ready for you but you must be ready for love:)

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DO YOU PREFER A GUY TO PAY ON THE FIRST DATE?

BY CYNAID CREE
I still remember the day when my friend texted me while I was doing my hair.She was frantically upset,although i couldn't understand why.Two weeks ago she was going on about how much she liked this guy.He was sweet,interested in all she had to say.She was physically attracted to him.He seemed like an educated guy, equal to her that matched what she was looking for.No she was not looking for a super rich man but someone that was just as hard working as her.

They just went out for drinks,but that evening determined whether that date would lead to the second or not.Apparently after the drinks the bill sat on the table.The bill was R25 ,so is that like about $2 each?.So guess what this great guy said,"heres my R12.50".My friend just looked at him in utter shock.She gave him her R14.50 with tip and said she's tired,she'd like to go home.I think he wanted to go somewhere else after that to a club but a simple mistake ruined the whole night.

My opinion on the whole thing.I was upset for him doing that.He could have just paid the bill as it was just R25.My friend said she would have paid the full amount herself but because she was upset by his actions,she paid her dues and wanted to get the hell out of there which ruined the mood for the relationship to follow.I do realize women want to be seen as equals but if women took all responsibility, what is there left for a man to own.Personally I don't mind paying my way wherever I go,but if you're going to buy your own flowers and chocolates on your birthday or valentines day,all the money in the world cant give you the same feeling when you get these gifts from true act of kindness and love.So guys remember that women can take care of themselves but we really like a guy being THE guy too.I do believe a lady that works hard will split the bills with you,but making a move like asking to split the bill on the first date just ruins your chances of a great relationship.I think table manners a guy should own it all,but I do give caution to the gold-diggers that take advantage of well mannered men.Go out for drinks,if the second date gets out of control guys you know she is a gold-digger so stop there.But if you meet a great lady,be table manner ready,all good women deserve it.:)

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WOULD YOU CHANGE YOUR RELIGION FOR SOMEONE YOU LOVE?

BY CYNAID CREE
I heard this question being asked to one of the miss universe finalists.I waited in awe to hear which part of it resonated with me.I then asked myself the same question and this was my thoughts on it.

I immediately would say yes.Love is found in all things even if it was disguised with religion.Sometimes I think God would want us to see that,if there was no such thing as religion would you still love me ?would you still miss me when I'm gone , no matter what my relgion were.Of course yes.If God pretended to be someone else would you love him?or would you love God only when you knew it was God.I dont even think God would want us to live loving people only after been told who or what they were.

Then I had another thought.It all depended if the religion I chose complimented me.Religion in the past had a strict protocol of how you should act and behave and everything was known to be taboo.Religion had made it difficult for people to be together because it made you choose your family over Love.Religion has evolved and has made exceptions for culture as people and lifestyles have evolved too.If it was a religion that allowed me to be my true authentic self then I would change for love.I would still be me,just following another path  to God.Spirituality has had a strong presence in society too where religion overlaps and allows all people to come on to the same path.Its very much like different roads leading to one highway.I really enjoy spirituality because it allows me to share my views and understand other religions too which forms a common ground and helps one to being more open to Love than just labeling people as Religion.

But why does it matter?Why should religion stop two people that love each other from not been together.Our hearts are big enough to love two at the same time that is one GOD and the partner that we are blessed with.Its like asking which child do you love the most?Would you choose between your children?God doesn't say that you have to choose.I think he says Love me and whoever you want to love that makes you happy too.As much as religion plays an important role in shaping society,I think many times we detour from OUR own truths in our hearts.God makes it very clear and puts these obstacles in our way so that we stare at our own truth in its face and deal with feelings that block our own happiness.We all create excuses in our lives and live a life half lived,when we had the chance to feel and experience the real deal.

The most important thing when choosing LOVE is not really religion but how happy you are when you are with this person.Are you your true self?Are you living your life the way you were meant to live with this person.We are all meant to be the better versions of ourselves.If anyone can bring out the best you,then no matter what their religion,they were meant to go on this journey with you.

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