DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT?

BY CYNAID CREE

When we think about our interests we sometimes think that the person who shares all our interests is the right person we should be seeking  a potential partner in.For years we have been looking in one direction only.I've come to realise that the most important thing when seeking a potential partner is having a healthy conversation.You don't need to be amazed or seem interested in all of your partner or future partners interests but engaging in some of it shows appreciation that their interests are important to you because they are important to you.When you come to think of it all people can be loving,kind,caring no matter what their interests are.The question of opposites attracting is merely based on  interests which we cannot form a basis on for all relationships.

When you look at the entire situation you will come to realise that we all form part of a smaller piece to a puzzle.When we use our interests and talents to help and compliment each other then we make for a happy relationship.Yes we do have a varying amount of interests.Having your own interests not only keeps you busy but it makes you YOU.Having your own interests not only keeps you happy and active but allows you the quality time to appreciate each other when you do spend time together.Sometimes the reason for opposites attracting is that unconsciously we seek to be more of what is missing in our so called DNA and so an introverted person who comes into contact with an extroverted person who will now be able to take on a new challenge that they might not have taken on their own and grow as a person.An opposite personality attracting will help create balance to what you need in your life.This also goes for an extrovert.If a person is zippy racing through life,they may not be able to see what they are doing,to stop and smell the roses once in a while.Only an introverted person will be able to show this person what they would have missed whilst becoming so busy doing anything and everything in sight.Meeting opposites does have success because our lifestyles becomes balanced and a healthy relationship is all about creating a healthy balance.This does not necessarily mean that we have to look for opposites because if extroverted or introverted people meet opposites and either one suggested something.They would probably think you want to change them and so it wont work for people who are stubborn.Creating balance happens gradually and when both people who have qualities of honesty,kindness and patience first,you can apply the rules of opposites and watch how you will grow and change positively in your relationship living a balanced lifestyle for each other.

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DOES NOT HAVING A JOB AFFECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

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DOES LOVING LESS MAKE YOU STRONGER?

BY CYNAID CREE

When I sit in business meetings I often wonder if Love is very much like business deals.If you think about it,the people who are more firm or more confident and dont back down in a deal are usually the successful ones.The other party is usually surprised by your forcefulness and takes this as a strong person to take a chance on or taking a chance on something of what they dont know of what it is that will happen.Guess what I'm trying to say is that if you are not showing desperation and you can sometimes walk away without a deal being done,sometimes this makes you stronger and successful and the other person can respect this.You are confident in your beliefs and what you stand for.

So does Loving Less make you stronger?Yes and No.Not intentionally"Loving Less" but pretending to Love Less that is not desperate.If You look back to your teenage years you probably blabbed out everything that was in your mind to the person you liked.Then you thought oh shoot he/she is going to think Im a looney bin.Too much too soon.Its ok being honest but just think how would you react in a business meeting.You go in all prepared,with a concise plan in mind ,pack that confidence in and do what you have to do.Everything comes out beautifully.Perhaps you will be called in for a second meeting to discuss further or even a third meeting where you kind of know the gist of how to communicate with the person in front of you.You can gather from this that you will be able to have a great working relationship in the future and look at  ways in how you can carry each other towards success.Approaching Love is very much like the same thing.Off course there will be times where Love does not work according to appointments,it just happens.So if you just saw someone you were immediately interested in and see often,you would not say ''Hey babe can I have your number?".Dont say "Oh my god I really want to get your number because when I saw you coming,then I thought maybe I should,then I was hesistating and decided I would talk to you''.As sweet as you can be, that comes across very desperate and you dont want to invite some loser that will take advantage of you and get stuck in that pattern of choosing people who know you dont have the confidence.Something that does not relate to what your real intentions are, can work just fine.Like:
"Hi there,are you new?Im so and so,welcome to...",if somebody moved in your office building or apartment block.Its friendly without sounding too forward but it allows for someone to take notice in you.
Coming back to Loving Less making you stronger.It does not necessarily mean you dont have to love someone wholeheartedly.Give yourself time to get to know the other person,Give yourself time to get to know yourself because most of us dont really know who we are,what we are looking for and we dont need to settle for second best.This is what I mean by Loving less in the begininning that  does make you stronger because it allows you to put your confidence out in the world so the right people can find you.The right person is someone that is on your page and believes in your dreams,aspirations and future success just like their own.Love Less just in the beginning until you can intrepret where this relationship is heading.You know how Business is done,you do work and you get paid and vice versa.If you are contributing something to this relationship you should feel like the other person has your back too by contributing as well.This will make for a good partnership because it becomes stable as two people contribute towards the same goal.So business or personal this is how the deal is done.Shall we shake on that?
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MOVING IN TOGETHER GOOD IDEA OR BAD IDEA?

BY CYNAID CREE
I aint got a clue on this one.For many years I challenged myself to find the answer to this question.The answer varies from different races when I asked them.Im not sure if its a culture or race thing or a time period thing.I was raised very traditional so moving in with a guy is a huge taboo in my family without being married first.If marriage didnt exist maybe it would not be such a bad thing that is moving in together but there are still many people that feel the need to be married.I think  60 years from now marriage will eventually be obselete but for now many people still pose the question of what they should be doing.It basically is up to your personal requirements.If you are laidback and casual you would move in together if you are conservative and need direct answers you would move in together after marriage.There is alot of pros and cons to moving in together and not moving in together.You decide:)

PROS-MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-When you move in together you get a feel to what it would be like being married.
-You get to see whether your personal living qualities will match your partners
-You have an exit point instead of getting a costly divorce
-Fix problems before it arises in marriage

CONS-MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You get too used to each other and after getting married the romantic side of the relationship goes downhill because you aleady" been there,done that alot".This leaves room for infidelity.
-You make it too easy for your partner so there is nothing he needs to chase after  or work towards because the environment is comfortable.Men dont feel the need to pop the question.Ever heard the term men always want what they cant have.
-You clash over silly things like how to squeeze the toothpaste or keeping places tidy to your liking and using that clashes as a basis for a good marriage.Kim Kardashian had huge issues for her space been tresspassed or violated.Its sad when people think this is the most important basis for the success of a relationship.
-Buying a property is a serious decision in your life.Most people will vouch if you are buying a property for yourself.When purchasing with a partner , you have no idea if you are serious or not,this can be disastrous if the rlationship had to end.Sometimes Mr Right can be a while away.It puts you in alot of financial straints for yourself as you keep putting yourself at financial risk for many Mr Wrongs.
-More chances of you guys getting pregnant,something like starting a family so soon,which may not be on your list at the time.This takes time away from each other and your own activities.

PROS FOR NOT MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You get to meet many people whilst not announcing it to friends and family so that if it doesnt work out you can always move on
-You dont have any financial ties with the person you just broke up with
-You keep the relationship alive by your partner still pursuing you.If he is not still pursuing you then obviously know you did the right thing by not being together because if you both were married he is someone that would stray.
-Gives you enough time to focus on your own careers,lives whilst keeping a romantic relationship.You are not bored with each other because you dont live together.It allows you to continue this in your marriage too.
-You are now married,financially stable and ready to start a family with someone you know that wanted the same as you
-Chances are you would probably fight about toothpaste because you never lived together but you realize the endurance you both were striving for in your relationship to get this far and see it as a minor flaw.
-You value marriage as something sacred and dont always look for divorce as the easy way out.If there are problems you will find the way in marriage to fix it.

CONS FOR NOT MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You dont get to know everything about your partner till you are married
-You only find out after you were married, the problems that arise
-You already have children while you and your partner have marital problems
-Divorce is the only way out

PHOTO COURTESY BY: AMBRO

WHY DO WOMEN FEEL THE NEED TO BE A MISTRESS?

BY CYNAID CREE

The cheating game is like the wheel depicted in the tarot deck.The wheel of fortune but for a temporary time only. For centuries women fell prey and still fall prey to believing that something good will always come out of being the " other woman'' in a relationship.They believe that eventually the man will leave his homestead,wife and family for her.Being the other woman feels like a dream,to be whisked away spending each night in luxury hotels,dining at the most expensive restaurants.Diamonds and pearls sparkling away on your neck wrist and fingers.Soon that dream is over once you start falling in love.Any cheating man knows when that game is over.When a woman plays the game so well and one night she wants to " cuddle".

Although technology has changed over the years and continues to change making life simplier ,the cheating game has remained the same for centuries.Being a mistress is all fun in the beginning.Theres so much to gain,a great career,more luxury,a superb car but at the end of the day we are human and our hearts eventually crave the real love which were once replaced with material things.Every woman that enters the love triangle goes in thinking that she will be the only object of affection for the man she is cheating with.Little does she know that he has enough money to find a new mistress each and every time.The more the money,and the younger the better.I've watched several talk shows where the guests are " other woman'' and feel quite proud at being it too.Years later when their physical youth is no more,the only thing left to show is a broken heart.They are back on the show explaining their ignorance to their past love affairs.Luxury is temporary numbness to your heart.Eventually it gives way and exposes the hurt that you cause your own self.

Why do woman feel the need to be a mistress?
There is usually a deep root cause for substituting one of the following to fill that missing void.
-Lack of love from all the men in her life
-Using her body for material gains filling that void
-Not paying attention and ignoring what her heart really wants and is telling her
-Subsitituting wealth for emotion.

As with any human being.We all crave Love.The only way we can find Love that was missing in our lives is when:
- We start respecting our bodies like a temple in which it was created for.Respecting ourselves first
-We tell ourselves that there is nothing wrong with us and we are perfect in every way.
-We command respect and we shall receive it from all.
-We take charge of our weaknessess and focus awareness on it
-We concentrate on our strengths that will help take us away from tempting situations.

Being a mistress only leads you full circle on helping you realize why you spent so many years chasing something that could not really make your life complete.I hope one day women will catch a wake up call and start respecting themselves more.Even if you are an independant woman with your own money,craving love that you will never get only wastes time that you could spend on your own spiritual growth.

There is an article from a mistress who published a book based on her experience being a mistress.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-501371/The-mistress-self-delusion-Lord-Archers-ex-lovers-guide-virtues-woman.html

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THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT

BY CYNAID CREE

No matter how positive you can be,there are always the events and setbacks  that makes us take a backseat in our lives.I was having one of those  "if only days".You know when you're told you have to be patient about all the things you want in your life but nothing ever happens.That time goes from weeks to months to years and then eventually your patience runs out.

I had not checked my mail in a long time and then I received this mail and the words jumped right out at me like "Hey Im talking to you,I hope you're listening!!''.I felt really guilty because I am guilty of comparing.If I just had a little bit more help and ..If only I had.....then I could.. .In all of our personal relationships you can have all that you want but whats true is instead of looking at someone elses life or relationship,try looking at your own.The more time you focus on our own life you could actually have what you want.The following extract is from the email I received.Its so inspirational,I thought I'd share it.

There's an old saying: "The grass is always greener on the other side."
At some point in life, everyone looks at their circumstances and thinks,
"If only... If only I had a better job. If only my spouse were like
so-and-so. If only I had gone to college. If only I had the
opportunities so-and-so had." We look around and think everyone else has
it better than we do. But I believe comparison is just a trick of the
enemy to get us off course and keep us from God's best. Comparison is
the thief of joy, and if the enemy can steal our joy, he has stolen our
source of strength.

See, I don't believe the grass is greener on the other side; I believe
the grass is greener where you water it. In other words, we have to tend
to the things that are important to us if we want to see those areas of
our lives blossom and grow. If you want better relationships, you have
to invest in the people around you. If you want a better job, you have
to invest in your skill set to qualify for that job and then go after it.

We all have the capacity to come up higher. God has given us all
tremendous opportunities, but if we are focused on what everyone else
has, we'll miss out on what God has especially for us!
Today, instead of comparing, decide to cultivate the dry, follow areas
of your life. Begin to water and invest in the areas in which you want
to see change."

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HOW TO CREATE THE MEMORIES AND EXPERIENCES IN LIVING LIFE TO ITS FULLEST

BY CYNAID CREE

Just the other day I was staring blankly at the tv and I just thought..Can you imagine how much money we just spend on experiences.We pay money to go to the movies.After you watch the movie what happens?Its just stored in our brain.All humans do is process this information thats just being viewed and payed for.When you think about it you actually paid money for an experience and the emotion that comes with it. Even taking your family out to a fast food restaurant,its a simple experience and memory to treasure but its still paid for.We pay for expensive clothes,shoes,gadgets,cars just so that we can feel a certain emotion that comes with it.When you think about it its really strange how humans behave.Of course theres the basic things that we need but then we are always chasing the next new thing.This behaviour has become erradical,adding things to our life that we dont really need.

What about all the things that exists in front of you.The birds that visit everyday on a tree near your kitchen window.Writing your name on a misty car window.The smell of your favourite food being cooked in the kitchen by your mum or even listening to the voice of your partner on the other end of the telephone.Memories and experiences will live with you till your golden years but you want to make sure its the memories that will make you smile and shed a tear.You dont want to grow old thinking you spent all this time on the internet tweeting and counting how many likes you had on a page or comment or who sent you an email on your mobile.To create RICH memories and experiences to the fullest,we have to go back to minimal.No pun intended:D

Theres one man who I admire so much who is a great example of how we should be living.The second richest man in the world,Warren Buffet who donated $31 billion dollars to charity.No wonder he is so rich because he is so generous too.The way he lives his life is so down to earth he definitely knows how to really live life to the fullest.

Here are some interesting aspects of his life:

1.- He bought his first share at age 11 and now regrets that he started too late.

2.- He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.

3.- He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in Omaha that he bought after he married 50 years ago. He says he has everything he needs in that house. His house has no fence or gate.

4.- He drives his own car everywhere and does not carry a driver or bodyguard.

5.- He never travels by private jet, although he owns the largest private jet company in the world.

6.- His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls regularly.

7.- He has given his CEO’s only two rules:

• Rule 1: Do not lose any money from its shareholder.
• Rule 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

8.- He does not socialize with people of high society. His pastime after he gets home is to prepare some popcorn and watch television.

9.- Bill Gates, the world’s richest man met him 5 years ago. Bill Gates thought he had nothing in common with Warren Buffett. So he had scheduled the meeting for only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffett.

10.- His advice to young people:
Stay away from credit card and invest in yourself.

Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk

Dont you love rule number 10.Invest in yourself and I dont always think it means monetary.It can also be taking care of yourself in health and when you do this you can take care of others too. 

Make sure when you find that someone special in your life you dont get caught up in the rat race of life and you have time to snuggle with popcorn in front of the tv or find time to act silly:)Those memories are priceless!!!!

source:

http://www.theuglycow.net/financial-advice/warren-buffett-the-second-richest-man-in-the-world-who-donated-31-billion-dollars-to-charity/