BY CYNAID CREE
I aint got a clue on this one.For many years I challenged myself to find the answer to this question.The answer varies from different races when I asked them.Im not sure if its a culture or race thing or a time period thing.I was raised very traditional so moving in with a guy is a huge taboo in my family without being married first.If marriage didnt exist maybe it would not be such a bad thing that is moving in together but there are still many people that feel the need to be married.I think 60 years from now marriage will eventually be obselete but for now many people still pose the question of what they should be doing.It basically is up to your personal requirements.If you are laidback and casual you would move in together if you are conservative and need direct answers you would move in together after marriage.There is alot of pros and cons to moving in together and not moving in together.You decide:)
PROS-MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-When you move in together you get a feel to what it would be like being married.
-You get to see whether your personal living qualities will match your partners
-You have an exit point instead of getting a costly divorce
-Fix problems before it arises in marriage
CONS-MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You get too used to each other and after getting married the romantic side of the relationship goes downhill because you aleady" been there,done that alot".This leaves room for infidelity.
-You make it too easy for your partner so there is nothing he needs to chase after or work towards because the environment is comfortable.Men dont feel the need to pop the question.Ever heard the term men always want what they cant have.
-You clash over silly things like how to squeeze the toothpaste or keeping places tidy to your liking and using that clashes as a basis for a good marriage.Kim Kardashian had huge issues for her space been tresspassed or violated.Its sad when people think this is the most important basis for the success of a relationship.
-Buying a property is a serious decision in your life.Most people will vouch if you are buying a property for yourself.When purchasing with a partner , you have no idea if you are serious or not,this can be disastrous if the rlationship had to end.Sometimes Mr Right can be a while away.It puts you in alot of financial straints for yourself as you keep putting yourself at financial risk for many Mr Wrongs.
-More chances of you guys getting pregnant,something like starting a family so soon,which may not be on your list at the time.This takes time away from each other and your own activities.
PROS FOR NOT MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You get to meet many people whilst not announcing it to friends and family so that if it doesnt work out you can always move on
-You dont have any financial ties with the person you just broke up with
-You keep the relationship alive by your partner still pursuing you.If he is not still pursuing you then obviously know you did the right thing by not being together because if you both were married he is someone that would stray.
-Gives you enough time to focus on your own careers,lives whilst keeping a romantic relationship.You are not bored with each other because you dont live together.It allows you to continue this in your marriage too.
-You are now married,financially stable and ready to start a family with someone you know that wanted the same as you
-Chances are you would probably fight about toothpaste because you never lived together but you realize the endurance you both were striving for in your relationship to get this far and see it as a minor flaw.
-You value marriage as something sacred and dont always look for divorce as the easy way out.If there are problems you will find the way in marriage to fix it.
CONS FOR NOT MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You dont get to know everything about your partner till you are married
-You only find out after you were married, the problems that arise
-You already have children while you and your partner have marital problems
-Divorce is the only way out
PHOTO COURTESY BY: AMBRO
I aint got a clue on this one.For many years I challenged myself to find the answer to this question.The answer varies from different races when I asked them.Im not sure if its a culture or race thing or a time period thing.I was raised very traditional so moving in with a guy is a huge taboo in my family without being married first.If marriage didnt exist maybe it would not be such a bad thing that is moving in together but there are still many people that feel the need to be married.I think 60 years from now marriage will eventually be obselete but for now many people still pose the question of what they should be doing.It basically is up to your personal requirements.If you are laidback and casual you would move in together if you are conservative and need direct answers you would move in together after marriage.There is alot of pros and cons to moving in together and not moving in together.You decide:)
PROS-MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-When you move in together you get a feel to what it would be like being married.
-You get to see whether your personal living qualities will match your partners
-You have an exit point instead of getting a costly divorce
-Fix problems before it arises in marriage
CONS-MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You get too used to each other and after getting married the romantic side of the relationship goes downhill because you aleady" been there,done that alot".This leaves room for infidelity.
-You make it too easy for your partner so there is nothing he needs to chase after or work towards because the environment is comfortable.Men dont feel the need to pop the question.Ever heard the term men always want what they cant have.
-You clash over silly things like how to squeeze the toothpaste or keeping places tidy to your liking and using that clashes as a basis for a good marriage.Kim Kardashian had huge issues for her space been tresspassed or violated.Its sad when people think this is the most important basis for the success of a relationship.
-Buying a property is a serious decision in your life.Most people will vouch if you are buying a property for yourself.When purchasing with a partner , you have no idea if you are serious or not,this can be disastrous if the rlationship had to end.Sometimes Mr Right can be a while away.It puts you in alot of financial straints for yourself as you keep putting yourself at financial risk for many Mr Wrongs.
-More chances of you guys getting pregnant,something like starting a family so soon,which may not be on your list at the time.This takes time away from each other and your own activities.
PROS FOR NOT MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You get to meet many people whilst not announcing it to friends and family so that if it doesnt work out you can always move on
-You dont have any financial ties with the person you just broke up with
-You keep the relationship alive by your partner still pursuing you.If he is not still pursuing you then obviously know you did the right thing by not being together because if you both were married he is someone that would stray.
-Gives you enough time to focus on your own careers,lives whilst keeping a romantic relationship.You are not bored with each other because you dont live together.It allows you to continue this in your marriage too.
-You are now married,financially stable and ready to start a family with someone you know that wanted the same as you
-Chances are you would probably fight about toothpaste because you never lived together but you realize the endurance you both were striving for in your relationship to get this far and see it as a minor flaw.
-You value marriage as something sacred and dont always look for divorce as the easy way out.If there are problems you will find the way in marriage to fix it.
CONS FOR NOT MOVING IN TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
-You dont get to know everything about your partner till you are married
-You only find out after you were married, the problems that arise
-You already have children while you and your partner have marital problems
-Divorce is the only way out
PHOTO COURTESY BY: AMBRO
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