WHO'S LIFE ARE YOU LIVING?

BY CYNAID CREE

Even when you are in a relationship you can forget who you are,what your goals where and lose track of all things that make you happy.You forget to take care of yourself because money worries can creep in and suck out all the fun out of your life.Couples always experience this because theres two people that have to take care of each other and their household.Being a couple is no way easy like when you were single always putting yourself first.With relationships comes all kinds of responsibilties which is the reason why many people feel stressed like they are not really living their own life anymore.We live everybody else's life but our own.I always get inspiring mails just when I need it the most and I know all of you have  the same meltdowns at some point or another and asked yourself the same question.Below is an extract by Mona Wind on the very same topic

                  

 ''This past week I have asked a lot of my clients Who's life are you living? What I mean is that 99% of the time we are living out the fantasies and dreams of others. Parents, our friends, society or even who we were in our past lives. Let me expand.When you are in your mothers womb you are listening to her voice and thinking that you are her. What she thinks and feels about herself, the food she's eating, who she's with and what is happening to her is constantly chattering 

through her mind. You are directly connected to her and sense, feel and think whatever she is. If you hear your fathers voice, or whomever else's around her, you will gather that information 

as yours as well.

Within the first three months of being in the womb, your past life karma is downloaded in your spine as karma knots. This 

brings in all the data of all lifetimes you've lived including all the experiences associated with it. All that energy from that 

other person or people you were.Within the first 8-10 years of coming of your mother's womb, your brain is in a hypnotic state picking up the way to be in this reality from the people around you. They teach you what love is, what money is, what sex is, what joy is.  Being that you are incredibly sensitive and pick up everyone's thoughts, feelings at 

all times, you have picked up all the data on how to live life in this reality.  You maybe living other people's life and wondering what's wrong with you!

NOTHING is wrong with you!  You just didn't know you were living 

out other people's realities! Spend a few minutes answering these 

questions.

1. If no thought, feeling, person could come in your way, what 

would YOU like to experience and create?

2. What would you do, be, receive just for the fun of it?

3. Is what you're doing now or what you'd like to do rewarding?

Fun, rewarding, you get to chose! These are all expressions of an 

Infinite Being. That's why you're here, FUN!!!! 

So check and see who's life you're living, and if it's not yours, 

let's make 2012 the year you step in what works, feels good and 

rewards YOU!

I can adore you, can you?

big hug

Mona Wind"

ONLINE LOVE

BY CYNAID CREE
With technology comes new ways of communicating.Love definitely has improved throughout the years with the help of communication.In the old days sweethearts had to wait weeks to receive a love letter from their other half.Long distance relationships was done through formal writing to each other.The initial meeting was possible through train and ship transport and just a letter of an unconfirmed meeting spot.t.Now its so much easier with cars,planes,internet chat and video calling with skype.Its amazing of how much technology has improved and helped love along the way.

Online love is a strange term but with the help of technology,it helps us to create new relationships with people that would not have been possible before.Technology allows us to communicate with someone who we might have been too shy to go up to in a  face to face manner, to begin a conversation with.Not only does communication help start a relationship ,it also helps maintain a relationship too.Soldiers going off to war are now able to communicate with their loved ones through video calling no matter where in the world they are.They are able to be part of an event ,being part of a memory that if it wasn't for technology they would be missing out on.Online love can be seen as dangerous love but i think any relationship can be seen dangerous.Usually you would go out with someone in person if you had a date.This is dangerous as you know nothing about this person and only getting to know this person as you go on these dates.With online dating,you get to know someone through their personality first.You can get to know someone for as long as you like before you decide that you want to meet or really be with them

.Of course once you meet you should pursue this relationship strongly so that you know this person is single and confirm any doubts you may have of someone as in any relationship.If you call them you must be able to get a hold of this person in the day time or night time to confirm that your relationship is legitimate.These are some of the signs you need to watch out for in long distance relationships.However there is nothing we can do to stop technology.If we don't hop on the social bandwagon,we will miss out on a sector of meeting interesting people.In any relationship comes honesty and a trust factor.Technology is only here to simplify our lives and help maintain a great relationship when we find it,as well as however we find it, but it is we that should not abuse it.

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renjith krishnan

LOVE UNSAID

BY CYNAID CREE
Have you ever being misunderstood?felt angry for a long time and not resolved it.Life is too short to wait for tragedies to appreciate the love wer're given in our lives.It doesn't matter if its your partner,a family member or a friend.Sometimes love can be toxic and at other times love just needs forgiveness to renew something that was broke.The thing about Family love is no matter  how much we all fight,we're back being brother and sister again.If we used this concept in our lives I bet most of our love fears can be fixed.I always get mails from Mona Wind.She said something that was so close to what I'm always writing about I thought I'd share it with you too.We all need a bit of love advice in our lives.You're never too old for it.Read the paragraph below from Mona Wind

"Yes, I have been turned down many a time and  misunderstood. Often times it's from the ones I expect will
 reciprocate. Oye.. that hurts the most. Yet I understand that the other person might not be ready, doesn't want to or know how to fully receive, is to scared to, or their conditioning stops them.


  1. Love is NOT a two way street. Yes, you heard me! It's not, I
  love you so you love me. This limited way of being love will
  make you sick to your stomach. You'll always be waiting to be
  loved when you can just BE LOVE. Every little cell in your
  system is filled with love. Only you, your family, society,
  beliefs, experiences can shut it down. It is the very fiber of
  your being. You can hold it in like bad gas all you want, but
  you cannot help but want to express love. Here's a picture of a
  cute puppy. I dare you to hold in your love now!
  I remember one of my friends saying “I love you,” with deep
  emotion. And then he became paralyzed with the outburst of his
  true self as if he'd done a hideous thing. That's when I
  realized that he had some “rules” and he'd broken them.
 
  2. Love has no rules. That's not love, that's some nonsensical
  limitation that says that you're only allowed to love people
  who are single, nice, family (unless they're im-perfect!),
  friends, pets, plants, love you back, pretty, funny, rich,
  handsome, beautiful.... blah blah. This keeps you stuck and
  limited in your loving. The most horrific part is that society,
  friends, family who believe love is an exchange of energy
  between two people that is limited, will limit you as well.
  In conclusion, tell whomever you love and want to love that you
  love them.  Time is flying by (almost 2012), opportunities are
  passing, take the ones you have now. Stop waiting for that
  perfect timing, person. BE YOUR TRUE SELF. Say it all before
  you no longer have the privilege of being in the presence of
  the one you love, whomever they are."

 

Mona Wind




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HOW AN OBSESSIVE MIND CAN DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP

BY CYNAID CREE

I get wonderful emails and on one particular email I received this story.I don't know who it is by but this is the story:

There is a powerful story in the Vedas (Indian spiritual
scriptures) that talks about the mind and how it can come in our
way.

The mind came to a spiritual master (Yogi) and said to him, "Give
me something to do or I'll eat you."

The Yogi asked the mind to do the laundry, mow the lawn and wash
the dishes.

The mind came back to the Yogi and said, "Give me something else
to do or I'll eat you."

The Yogi asked the mind to pay the bills, buy groceries, wash the
car and fill it with gas.

The mind came back to the Yogi and said, "What now, or I'll eat
you."

That's when the Yogi realized that the mind was insatiable and
that no matter what he gave it, it would come back for more.

So the Yogi pointed to a pole in front of him and told the mind
to go up and down that pole until it was tired. The mind is still there!

This is what our mind does to us, goes up and down a million
times a day. You may think this is harmless, but in reality
you're not using your energy in the most profound way possible.
It's being wasted.

If we don’t realize the thousand of things that we actually use our time and convince our mind to do ,we will never be able to stop.Just imagine if people didn't have to eat,we would be on our laptops,cellphones 24/7 not to mention the hours we would be spending glaring at screens.Thank goodness we have to eat, it allows us the time to spend talking to our loved ones over dinner.It allows us to catch up with an old friend for coffee.Even our work breaks forces our thoughts to stop processing to shut off our minds and take a breather.On our work breaks not only do we eat, we also may be able to sneak some minutes to do window shopping which is actually really good for the mind.It helps us to shut off all hounding thoughts and errands on our to do list.It helps us to recharge our batteries even if its only for a few minutes.Can you imagine if we are able to really give ourselves more time than just work breaks to shut off from the stresses of everyday life.Most geniuses actually became geniuses of their inventions when their mind was in a peaceful state of mind,Henry Ford,Albeit Einstein just to name a few.An obsessive mind can actually be destructive to a relationship.We are busy worrying about tomorrow instead of worrying about today.We fail to create a little peace of mind with all that jargon that goes on inside our minds to really appreciate spending time with our partners.
So How do we stop the obsessive mind:
1)Realize in the moment of your racing thoughts and you talking to yourself
2)Try to do little everyday so you don't end up with a massive to do list
3)Give yourself time to take a break if you feel like the world is overshadowing you eg having a cup of coffee in the garden,going to the movies,spending time together with your partner on a date
4)Tell your partner of the stresses you are encountering,never keep it to yourself
5)Always ask for help so that you don't create an obsessive mind behaviour of all things you need to do
6)If you don't take care of yourself today,you are not able to take care of anybody else today or tomorrow

Love is a wonderful thing.If you are too busy to see love come into your life,you will be so busy that you will watch it come and go in your life.This is why it is so important that we must know when to stop and realize when too much is just too much for you and your partner to handle.Make time for the most important things in your life,what you may think is important on your to do list may be superficial and not really important at all
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THE SIMPLE THINGS IN LIFE

BY CYNAID CREE
A kiss and a hug,a warm smile,a love letter,receiving a single flower.All these, are acts of love and its free.So why do we spend so much time thinking on superficial things on relationship glitches that takes up so much time in our mind.I  was watching a movie and I saw someone receiving a kiss and in that moment I instantly recognized the simple things we take for granted.When we have it we don't want it,when we don't have it we want it.The amount of happiness a single kiss or hug can bring is beautiful.Its a feeling of love we all can have ,if we  see it in the moment  for more than what it just is...

Do you realize the simple things in life is what makes us fall in love.Imagine if we could remember what we first encountered with a person and remembered it everyday,I bet most divorced couples wouldn't be divorced by now if they went back to the day  simple started.Those same simple things in life happens all over again till you find a new smile,a new hug and more flowers.It really gets down to being simple again.Our stressful lives is with too much living in it with all the wrong living styles,text messaging and tablets,flat screens and mp3 players all day long.I really do believe simplicity will bring you back to love.We tend to take everything and everyone for granted.My simple rule for simple living is if you love someone look at them when you're talking and not away at your newspaper,your electronic devices or talking on your phone with two people,one in your ear and one in the air.When people fall in love its all about the eye contact,you never forget the first time you seen something or someone so beautiful remembering their exact colour of their eyes.Who could forget it?

When you fail to look,.you fail to see and when you fail to see,you also don't see love anymore.Get back to simplicity appreciating every single thing and person around you and you will start to see life with brand new eyes.Whenever I see two old people holding hands ,there's a smile on their face like their relationship just started.I look at them and think maybe they realized it was time to get back to simple.We think that we know more than the old in a techny savy world, but really it is they who know more .When cellphone networks are crashing and people's thumbs stop moving, that's heaven saying don't forget you still have hugs and kisses:*

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WHAT IS REALLY AN ARGUMENT?

By CYNAID CREE
Have you ever misplaced an object only to find,how it got to the place it did?I once misplaced a textbook,and you'll never guess where i found it.I looked and looked for a whole day.Eventually it showed up and guess where I found it... in the freezer.I must have opened the freezer to take out something and ended up packing the book away too.I also misplace pens very easily too,but dont we all?You might say those are objects and relationships are much more complex.How is it the same?

Arguments are very similar too.We fight unconsciously and we create more harm than good.We misplace the solutions to arguments we already know so we keep fighting about the same things over and over.Imagine if we knew what we were doing in that moment.We wont be wasting time in an argument about who was right.Instead we would realize there is a problem,fix it and move on living a happier peaceful life every single day.

We are coming to a new age where we all are forced to look deep within ourselves and to be aware of our actions.Divorce may be an easier way to get out of an argument which is not really resolved but how many failed relationships do we need to come to terms with our own actions?Eventually our actions will stare at us and we will be forced to deal with it at some point in our life.Life is like a ferris wheel.I'm amazed how similar it works to the actions of people in society today.You will have a chance to jump in for the ride and when the ride stops,you have to get out too.Each basket eventually comes to a halt,for you to exit the ride.Everybody has to deal with their own challenges in life.If you ignore it,it will come back to you at some point or another to deal with what you supposedly ignored at a previous time.Its always better to deal with an argument in its present stage than years of supressed anger.

SO HOW DO WE DEAL WITH AN ARGUMENT?
-Be aware of each others mistakes
-Correct it but remember it
-Make each other aware of the person that we love the most.Make aware to each other how anger changes us and makes us behave
-Be aware of yourself when anger starts to take control of you.Immediately recogonize whats happening and stop right in that moment.
-Always deal with current problems immediately
-Never bring up the past during an argument in the present or future.You live for today and this will help you become a better person tomorrow

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HOW PEOPLE FALL IN AND OUT OF LOVE

BY CYNAID CREE

Most people fall in love when they are their happiest self.There is usually something going good for them at this time.This usually allows people to attract their significant other.Most importantly all of their awareness and being is in them during this time which allows love to attract love.How you are feeling is a good indication of who you will attract specifically in this time.

How do you fall out of love?A person has to be physically present in a relationship.By this I mean being physically present in mind awareness too.Once mind awareness has being lost,the relationship starts to fade too.Your body is there,but you as a person  and your heart is not there anymore.A relationship is very much like tending to a garden.How often do you de-weed and mow your lawn,everyday,once a week,once in two weeks?What happens when you neglect your garden?You dont see a garden anymore.Theres weeds of every kind,your precious flowers have died and you cant seem to see what you once knew you had.If you tend to your garden once a week,its sufficient to maintain this beautiful garden.With the stresses of everyday life,we sometimes fail to acknowledge what we have, and what we saw when we were in love.How then do people start to fall out of love?.This question is very difficult to answer.Before we can have time to save a dying garden we have to be available to have the time to do it.By this I mean we should start to create the time that is needed to.We become too busy only to realize it when its too late.Most importantly we should be able to acknowledge whats most important to us in our lives first.In a modernized world,we all have to work hard to succeed but not when it distracts your vision so much that you dont see truth and clarity anymore.There was a reason why two people are brought together onto a certain path,call it a blessing or fate but when you begin to see a similar bad pattern in each relationship you definitely dont have your life in order to understand if the relationship you're in is the right one for you or that you are just running away from something that could be a perfect relationship that just needs tending.Realizing your mistakes and correcting it will best help you in your current or future relationship.

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