THE SIMPLE THINGS IN LIFE

BY CYNAID CREE
A kiss and a hug,a warm smile,a love letter,receiving a single flower.All these, are acts of love and its free.So why do we spend so much time thinking on superficial things on relationship glitches that takes up so much time in our mind.I  was watching a movie and I saw someone receiving a kiss and in that moment I instantly recognized the simple things we take for granted.When we have it we don't want it,when we don't have it we want it.The amount of happiness a single kiss or hug can bring is beautiful.Its a feeling of love we all can have ,if we  see it in the moment  for more than what it just is...

Do you realize the simple things in life is what makes us fall in love.Imagine if we could remember what we first encountered with a person and remembered it everyday,I bet most divorced couples wouldn't be divorced by now if they went back to the day  simple started.Those same simple things in life happens all over again till you find a new smile,a new hug and more flowers.It really gets down to being simple again.Our stressful lives is with too much living in it with all the wrong living styles,text messaging and tablets,flat screens and mp3 players all day long.I really do believe simplicity will bring you back to love.We tend to take everything and everyone for granted.My simple rule for simple living is if you love someone look at them when you're talking and not away at your newspaper,your electronic devices or talking on your phone with two people,one in your ear and one in the air.When people fall in love its all about the eye contact,you never forget the first time you seen something or someone so beautiful remembering their exact colour of their eyes.Who could forget it?

When you fail to look,.you fail to see and when you fail to see,you also don't see love anymore.Get back to simplicity appreciating every single thing and person around you and you will start to see life with brand new eyes.Whenever I see two old people holding hands ,there's a smile on their face like their relationship just started.I look at them and think maybe they realized it was time to get back to simple.We think that we know more than the old in a techny savy world, but really it is they who know more .When cellphone networks are crashing and people's thumbs stop moving, that's heaven saying don't forget you still have hugs and kisses:*

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WHAT IS REALLY AN ARGUMENT?

By CYNAID CREE
Have you ever misplaced an object only to find,how it got to the place it did?I once misplaced a textbook,and you'll never guess where i found it.I looked and looked for a whole day.Eventually it showed up and guess where I found it... in the freezer.I must have opened the freezer to take out something and ended up packing the book away too.I also misplace pens very easily too,but dont we all?You might say those are objects and relationships are much more complex.How is it the same?

Arguments are very similar too.We fight unconsciously and we create more harm than good.We misplace the solutions to arguments we already know so we keep fighting about the same things over and over.Imagine if we knew what we were doing in that moment.We wont be wasting time in an argument about who was right.Instead we would realize there is a problem,fix it and move on living a happier peaceful life every single day.

We are coming to a new age where we all are forced to look deep within ourselves and to be aware of our actions.Divorce may be an easier way to get out of an argument which is not really resolved but how many failed relationships do we need to come to terms with our own actions?Eventually our actions will stare at us and we will be forced to deal with it at some point in our life.Life is like a ferris wheel.I'm amazed how similar it works to the actions of people in society today.You will have a chance to jump in for the ride and when the ride stops,you have to get out too.Each basket eventually comes to a halt,for you to exit the ride.Everybody has to deal with their own challenges in life.If you ignore it,it will come back to you at some point or another to deal with what you supposedly ignored at a previous time.Its always better to deal with an argument in its present stage than years of supressed anger.

SO HOW DO WE DEAL WITH AN ARGUMENT?
-Be aware of each others mistakes
-Correct it but remember it
-Make each other aware of the person that we love the most.Make aware to each other how anger changes us and makes us behave
-Be aware of yourself when anger starts to take control of you.Immediately recogonize whats happening and stop right in that moment.
-Always deal with current problems immediately
-Never bring up the past during an argument in the present or future.You live for today and this will help you become a better person tomorrow

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HOW PEOPLE FALL IN AND OUT OF LOVE

BY CYNAID CREE

Most people fall in love when they are their happiest self.There is usually something going good for them at this time.This usually allows people to attract their significant other.Most importantly all of their awareness and being is in them during this time which allows love to attract love.How you are feeling is a good indication of who you will attract specifically in this time.

How do you fall out of love?A person has to be physically present in a relationship.By this I mean being physically present in mind awareness too.Once mind awareness has being lost,the relationship starts to fade too.Your body is there,but you as a person  and your heart is not there anymore.A relationship is very much like tending to a garden.How often do you de-weed and mow your lawn,everyday,once a week,once in two weeks?What happens when you neglect your garden?You dont see a garden anymore.Theres weeds of every kind,your precious flowers have died and you cant seem to see what you once knew you had.If you tend to your garden once a week,its sufficient to maintain this beautiful garden.With the stresses of everyday life,we sometimes fail to acknowledge what we have, and what we saw when we were in love.How then do people start to fall out of love?.This question is very difficult to answer.Before we can have time to save a dying garden we have to be available to have the time to do it.By this I mean we should start to create the time that is needed to.We become too busy only to realize it when its too late.Most importantly we should be able to acknowledge whats most important to us in our lives first.In a modernized world,we all have to work hard to succeed but not when it distracts your vision so much that you dont see truth and clarity anymore.There was a reason why two people are brought together onto a certain path,call it a blessing or fate but when you begin to see a similar bad pattern in each relationship you definitely dont have your life in order to understand if the relationship you're in is the right one for you or that you are just running away from something that could be a perfect relationship that just needs tending.Realizing your mistakes and correcting it will best help you in your current or future relationship.

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