BREAKING YOUR OWN HEART PART 2

By Cynaid Cree
Here is the second part of the video,Breaking your own heart part 2

BREAKING YOUR OWN HEART PART 1

By Cynaid Cree

I came across this powerful video that I wanted to share with you all.

WILL YOU REMEMBER NOT TO FORGET ME?

BY CYNAID CREE

What would you do if the person you spent all your life loving  wakes up one day and does not remember you anymore.Did you ever make a vow to your partner if one day I forget you,remind me why I should not forget and give up?What would you do if they dont remember how you met or what it was like to fall in love.What would you do if all your silly moments could not be remembered.How do you make someone fall in love with you again when you seem like a complete stranger to them.All the years of sweet communication is dust.Your partner looks at you with new inquisitive blunt eyes.The stare hardens your heart to think that someone you loved so much means absolutely nothing to them as they go on with their day trying to put the pieces back together giving you blank stares that lacks love.There is no relationship anymore and the union of a perfect marriage is over.How would you handle such a situation if it really happened.Luckily what Im saying is the storyline of a movie that I watched this week called ''THE VOW''

If you ever want to know what love is and how to go about it in life,you should definitely watch this movie.It will show you that when tragedy strikes,its these events that it puts your life into perspective.If you watched this movie you would then realize that there is no need to wait for tragedy to strike and that if we live consciously in the now as if it was the last, we would not be so easily persuaded to give up no matter how hard life got and what challenges stood before us.

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WHY YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE UP ON LOVE

BY CYNAID CREE
Over these past few weeks I have come across movies,and sayings on not giving up on love.We talk so much about love but I don't think we all stop to really look at love.Love is the reason why we all are here.Love is the reason why we exist,love is the reason why we go after our passions.Love is also the reason that gives us our new families that has been created from Love.Most people get into relationships but don't honour the commitment of love.

Yesterday I went for a wedding and  the priest iniating the wedding ceremony went into details of the importance of the vows one makes to another.He went on to say that a woman or female is holy and if you grow up respecting your mother then you will understand why it is important to respect your wife.If you do not respect your mother,and treat her as your doormat you will not respect your wife and treat her in the same way.Your partner is your equal and together you are one.You are a union.The combination of 1+1=2 but when you look at 2 souls that come together and share a journey together,two paths now become one1+1=1.Love has no religion,and although this was what a priest was saying ,his words was honest and genuine and very true and surpassed me as something relgious.Many people say the vows,but are not spiritually connected to it.Marriage is not easy and it takes time for 2 souls to understand each other yet alone live with each other.Love is growing with each other through all the difficulties of life.This is why one should not give up on love.In our challenges in love and marriage,we should honour our vows and promises that will guide us in the correct path.During thoughts of infidelity's,there is always a conscience  that is asking us questions if what we are doing now will make us regret or be proud of tomorrow.If everyday you question the reactions of actions you wont stray from your path.Sometimes stress of life can take a toll on a person and change their moods which causes one to lash out against their loved ones or do something that could damage a relationship with no repair.Trust and respect which is the most important ingrediants to a happy relationship will not cause you to give up on love.Real love does not come easy and those who do not give up on love, really do love with all their heart and is what an example of real love is.It is through difficulties that is needed.that sometimes  help to show you, your own individual strengths and accomplishments in your relationships.People who go on to love, helping each other through their own weaknessess is to be commended on their bravery in Love.Yesterday I watched this movie called,the lost valentine starring Betty White of how she dealt with Love and how she didnt give up on love either.Love always deserves a chance like a growing tree.When you plant the seeds today,you cant expect a beautiful blooming tree tomorrow.Love is the same,it needs lots of patience,nurturing and love in order to see results.Before you decide to give up on love,look at yourself and ask yourself if you have respected your other half that you chose on this journey with you enough.Have you tried been kind to yourself and then others.If you want kindness to touch your heart you have to be giving it in bundles before you can receive it too.Like always attract like,and anger and hatred attracts the same.Actions towards us is first actions towards others Emotions is always a mirror reflection of what we give out first.If you give out love, love attracts love and there would be no reason on why you would be needing to give up on love

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WILL MARRIAGE EXIST IN THE FAR FUTURE?

BY CYNAID CREE
Many people get married and dream to get married because their parents did and their grandparents did.A long time ago marriage meant that you was going to be a wife and mother, and take care of your household,Now marriage does not hold the same view.Now couples are marrying much later in their lives.A man or a woman will share household duties,share taking care of the kids and both a man and a woman work and share the bills.Marriage used to be more a customary thing,but now marriage is a law thing and compulsory in getting a town house and qualifies entry on asset purchases.In some countries marriages is not necessary.Just living with someone qualifies them in receiving support if they wish to separate and need spousal support if children are involved.
                                       

Lets look more about the defintions and types of marriage
The word "marriage" derives from Middle English mariage, which first appears in 1250–1300 CE This in turn is derived from Old French marier (to marry) and ultimately Latin marītāre meaning to provide with a husband or wife and marītāri meaning to get married. (The adjective marīt-us -a, -um meaning matrimonial or nuptial could also be used in the masculine form as a noun for "husband" and in the feminine form for "wife

People marry for many reasons, including: legal, social, being in love, libidinal, emotional, financial, spiritual, and religious. Marriages can be performed in a secular civil ceremony or in a religious setting. The act of marriage usually creates normative or legal obligations between the individuals involved. Some cultures allow the dissolution of marriage through divorce or annulment. Polygamous marriages may also occur in spite of national laws.
Marriage can be recognized by a state, an organization, a religious authority, a tribal group, a local community or peers. It is often viewed as a contract. Civil marriage is the legal concept of marriage as a governmental institution irrespective of religious affiliation, in accordance with marriage laws of the jurisdiction. Forced marriages are illegal in some jurisdictions

I doubt marriage will exist in the far future if so just a minority.It will be a culture shock to those of us that are already married or plan to.Due to expensive divorces people are looking into alternate planning to look after their nest egg that they built for themselves.I often wonder how the world will be from now and often think people wont place that much emphasis in getting married.I also think many people will retain their surnames as more people  become professionals eg,doctors and lawyers or even entertainment.Most professionals  wait much later to get married and are not married when they have practices and prefer to keep their identity and have separate bank accounts than joint accounts.People getting married are just adding on their partners surname to their existing surname as not to lose their identity which they had before they got married.There is some people that take on their husbands surname as their own personal preference but I do think in the far future keeping your own name will be a norm.Visit the link worldwide traditions which gives an insight into the different types of wedding traditions around the world.I think the traditional aspect of the weddings and cultures incorporated into a union will exist but not a legal binding document of marriage in the future.

 

 

 

PHOTO COURTESY BY:VICHIE 81

http://www.worldweddingtraditions.com/

DOES LOVE HAVE A TIMING?

BY CYNAID CREE

We all go through life wondering when the ''right one'' will enter our lives.We spend all our teenage years and young adult lives wondering about this very question.Wouldn't it be nice, if there was no heartaches and heartbreaks wondering if the relationship you are in, is right for you and whether two people are doing the right thing in their lives when they do find each other.It would save alot of time and there would be less divorces in the world.
Last week I came across a movie called ''TIMER''.The sypnosis however if true oh what a wonderful aid that would be!!!!!!.A clock on your wrist that goes off when you meet the one:)

''What if a clock could count down to the moment you meet your soul mate? In this alternate version of present day Los Angeles, a revolutionary device called the TiMER fulfills this very fantasy. For a reasonable installation fee and a moderate monthly charge, a TiMER is implanted in the wrist and promises to accurately display the number of days, hours, minutes and seconds until the owners date with destiny. However, things arent so easy for Oona OLeary (EMMA CAULFIELD, Buffy the Vampire Slayer). Oona faces the rare dilemma of a blank TiMER; her soul mate—whoever and wherever he is—doesnt have a TiMER. While her family and friends move through life with predetermined romantic fates, Oona searches for her perfect match via the process of elimination, tentatively dating TiMER—less men, but never getting emotionally invested. Often, Oona even convinces her suitors to get TiMERs, only to have her hopes crushed time and time again. Staring down the barrel of thirty and tired of waiting for her would—be life partner to get off the dime, Oona breaks her own rules and falls for Mikey (JOHN PATRICK AMEDORI, Gossip Girl), a charming and inappropriately young supermarket clerk with a countdown of four months. But what will happen when those four months are up? Only when Oona ignores the ticking clock can she finally experience the exhilarating and unpredictable hot mess that is love.''

I thoroughly enjoyed this movie but not the ending so much because it ended abruptly and I was like and???????

Do watch it,it at least it gives you hope that maybe one day some gadget like this could exist and its really exciting to watch when the timer goes off,makes you feel like you could have one of those too,to accurately tell you, who belongs to you 

photo courtesy:DIGITAL ART

HOW DO I KNOW WHAT TYPE OF PERSON TO DATE?

BY CYNAID CREE

I'm thinking to when I was back in school looking around me, at the types of people that sat around me.There was the intelligent people aiming for straight A's and would only associate themselves with people of their own kind.Those are the people will tell you that x+x=x2 because its a proven theory.They were the rational A students.Then I look to the other side and theres the class clowns looking for an opportunity to disrupt the lesson .Their main aim was getting attention, and they didn't have any future goals set in stone.They take every day as it comes.On my far left there's the nerdy ,err not so nerdy computer whizz kids who will prove to you that
 x+x= something more than x2...a new theory and formula that could change the future dynamics of how we process things..On my right theres the ''I tried my best'' group.The hard working people always doing their homework,not necessarily the straight A's,B'S and C's but a little bit of all them.Behind me theres the group just not interested in school failing all their subjects,bunking school,but will wow you because they are extraordinary, and will achieve an A+ in the arts, but fail school.Lets not forget the popular group.They are known just for been beautiful.They get people to do their homework,everybody wants to be around them,they just fly through school thanks to their looks.Part of that group, are the hot girl,bad boy where you just float through school hoping they would just notice you.There's a group I almost forgot to mention which are the quiet shy group,they are the ones that will do homework for others and everybody, that can come into contact with them.They say yes to everybody and will do anything, anybody wants.They hardly have the courage to say no.Hmm now the pool of love has many choices, which one of these people would you rather date?
*A technological whizz creating for the future
*A rational ,straight forward person in the now
*A hard worker at everything
*A physically beautiful bad boy,bad girl
*The sweet shy yes to everybody people
*A funny person  that lives each day as it comes
*A person who failed at everything except one thing which they do brilliantly

While sitting in class I noticed all of these people,but especially for me,I enjoyed talking to people that made me laugh,not necessarily the clowns of the class but the sweet shy ones.Sweet people can be funny too.Their physical looks didn't matter to me.I was really more impressed with their kindness.As I move away from that time and come back to 2012,I find that I have really not changed so much.My experiences have made me wiser but I still am very impressed by and attracted to kind people in all my business and personal relationships.There is a saying that we need to treat people the way we want to be treated.So I guess if you treat people like shit,one day or another shit will come back to you.I live every day reminding myself to be kind to others,as I have remembered all the people that I have came into contact with that, showed me kindness.Although I am not in contact with some people because I wouldn't know what happened to them after college,I sure never have forgotten them.Every now and then they do cross my mind,and I say that was a nice person.

I was watching a BBC series''HOW WE MADE OUR MILLIONS''.A guy by the name of Richard Reed who is CEO and co-founder of a smoothie company ''INNOCENT'' drinks goes on saying that '' the first year he was coming out 44th out of 45 in his class exams,second year he came out 17th  in the class exams and his mum always told him he could do better than that.When I look at this guy he fits into every category,he is creating for the future,straight forward in the now,a hard worker at everything,physically attractive,sweet and probably a yes person to every situation,he sure lives everyday as it comes,he used to fail but now does things brilliantly.Quite a jack in the box and that's how you become an entrepreneur and a recipe for making millions.I don't think everybody will be multi-dimensional like this and there is no rules on who we choose,but we all definitely can strive to be better at anything we do including love.There is a specific trait that will appeal to you about the type of person you choose,that you will be attracted to.Just remember that while you are doing it,don't dismiss anybody in your sights when they appeal ''normal'' because one day they could be the next Bill Gates,President Obama,Richard Branson,Brad Pitt,Ellen Degeneres(what a pun to generous)or Richard Reed and you wish you was kinder to them before it all happened.